December 1, 2010

Finding You….

Posted in Choices, Decisions, Future, Happiness tagged , , , , , , , , , at 10:24 am by lemaclellan

Sometimes we get lost in the world and forget ourselves somewhere along the journey. Finding out who we are all over again is easy for some, while for others it is a constant battle. The problem with this is that if you do not understand who you are, and what you want out of life the decision you make may not be leading you towards reaching them.

Some suggestions that I know worked for me when i was trying to understand myself are:

    1. Taking time for yourself
      • – be it for a day, week, month or even just a couple hours each day you need to spend time with just yourself in o order to see yourself clearly because how others see us and the face we put on for society need to disappear for us to connect with ourselves.
    2. Describe your ideal self
      • make a list of all the qualities that the ideal version of yourself would have both good and bad, now write a list or check off on your ideal list which qualities you possess. this is a good way to see if you are living up to the you you would like to be. It also can work as a chart of growth, the more qualities that match up means that you are heading in the right direction.
    3. Make decisions for you
      • yes our family and friends have great influence in our lives but ultimately it is our life to live. so whatever you want to do with your life make sure that those aspirations and goals are yours and not someone else’s.  If they do belong to someone else you will never feel full accomplishment because part of the joy of reaching our goals is because thats what we wanted, and if we are doing it to please someone else, how does that help us?

Those are the basics that worked for me. I hope that if you find yourself in a state of self-confusion these tips will help.

if you have any questions comment or contact me, hope you all have a fantastic Wednesday.